The Introverted Pastor - Building a Connection

I am an introvert.

Sad to say, there are many people in our society today who will never make such a confession. But yet actions speak louder than words.

Some consider it taboo to be an introvert. Indeed, it was definitely not something that I was always eager to confess to, for (in my case) what congregation (I thought) would sign up to receive an introvert to serve as its pastor?

Think about it for a second...are you an introvert? Here are some things for you to consider. Do you find yourself doing more thinking than talking? Do you prefer to write down your thoughts rather than verbalize them? Are you more willing to open up and take charge in small groups, rather than large groups? Do you have no backbone in the face of conflict?

Chances are you're an introvert.

Things to keep in mind:

1. It is the way that we are wired.
God made us in our own unique way. We are not all alike. Some people may point to an introverted person and say that he or she (that is, the introverted person) does not like them or a certain group of people just because he or she does not get chummy with them, break out in instant conversation with them, and be the life of the party around them. Yet, that is nowhere near the truth. Once again, it is just the way we are wired.

2. Stay thoughtful my friends.
Introverts are thoughtful people. Yes, we may not always go from table to table striking up conversation with every stranger that we see (at least in a naturally easy and comfortable manner), but we do take in information around us. We observe and read people...constantly.

3. My energy level is low. Time to fill up!
Where do extroverts replenish their energy level? Answer: In the presence of other people. And when and where do introverts replenish their energy level? Answer: When they have their alone time - away from the presence of other people.

Now, introverts are often encouraged to extend themselves. And as a pastor I've learned to extend myself (though I have not always been perfect at it)...and I keep learning to do the same today. No, it will not always seem natural (extending oneself), but the heart that desires to love and express that love will seek to extend beyond all boundaries. At the end of the day the introvert is drained by the large company he or she keeps. Kick back and relax. Recharge...for tomorrow brings a new day!

Let me close with this...I believe that there are some who are ashamed to confess to being introverts because it is not who they wish to be. I cannot say how many times in the past I've kicked myself for failing to connect and engage in conversation with a person or group of people. But God opens up new doors of opportunity to extend oneself.

Also, remember...it is the way God wired you. God loves you. This is true.